How to make a new habit (that sticks!)

Habits are key to success. Bad habits can be your downfall while good habits can make the difference between a productive day and a lazy one wasted watching Netflix.

In the video below I take you through four research-backed steps that will help you to replace poor habits with healthier ones – and make sure they stick.

If you like the video, please visit my new YouTube channel and subscribe to be alerted when I upload new content.

With love

V x

ps. The habit tracking sheet and pledge I mention in the video can be found here.

Whose Life Are You Living?

𝕎𝕙𝕠𝕤𝕖 𝕃𝕚𝕗𝕖 𝔸𝕣𝕖 𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕃𝕚𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕘?

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐨𝐧 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐮𝐧𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐬, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲’𝐫𝐞 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠.

Do you feel like you’re on autopilot as you try to get through the day?

Maybe you think it’s because you’re too tired, or too stressed. But the truth is, it goes so much deeper than that.

Maybe you sometimes find yourself asking… how did I get here? This wasn’t how I had it planned.

Maybe this business and this life that you’ve built for yourself just doesn’t really feel like… well… you.

And that’s because you’re not really even living your life. You are living the life that your culture told you to live. The life that you’ve been conditioned to believe that you should be living in order to fit in and be like everyone else.

That’s the same culture (fueled by the media) that told you that you’re not good enough just the way you are.

So you’re working yourself into the ground, trying to do everything, be everything, have everything, but still feeling like there has to be more to life than this.

And to be honest, you can read all the mindset books and say all the positive affirmations, do all the restorative yoga and sit in meditation for as long as you want, but until you peel all the layers back and let the real you out, the best you’re going to be doing is surviving. Just getting through each day, instead of actually enjoying your life.

Let’s make a decision now. To do things differently. To try something you’ve never tried before.

Let’s find the real you, the person you were born to be. Not the person you thought you had to be.

Then you can start to thrive in your business and in your life.

What are you prioritising?

What are you prioritising?

So many of us put our mental and physical health at the bottom of the list of priorities, without realising they are the foundations upon which success is built.
We plough hours and hours into work at the expense of quality sleep, or eat cheap convenience food at the expense of fueling our bodies with good nutrition. Clients often say how they’ll ‘sort it out’ later, and then later I hear how they wish they’d sorted it out earlier.
If your mental health hits rock bottom, and your physical health reaches breaking point from a lack of adequate self care, then everything else that you’ve built upon it while ignoring the signs of weakening from below, will tumble.
Don’t put it off. Find some small action each day that is a little more than the day before. Walk a little further. Learn a little more about what foods serve your body and which foods harm it.
Anything more than nothing is success.
And don’t forget to have some fun while you’re at it!
What do you enjoy doing that you’re not making time for? What did you used to love, but no longer give yourself permission to indulge in? Did you put old hobbies aside because you thought you were ‘too old’ for them or worried what other people might think?
I recently received the message in several forms (In meditation, in a particularly amusing dream, in a helpful conversation with a friend) that I should dance more. While I used to get my dancing needs sated at night clubs in my younger days, those days of dancing until the sun comes up are way behind me.
But I miss it! I really do. So I’ve been putting music on in the morning, and dancing like, as the saying goes, there’s nobody watching. Except my cat and my dog are. And my son, who refuses to join in. It sets me up for the day, it gets me moving. It makes me laugh.
Seek out something that brings you joy, even if just for a moment.

If Only…

𝐈𝐟 𝐎𝐧𝐥𝐲…
 
Have you ever said “If only…”
 
If only I was smarter…
If only I was prettier…
If only I’d gone to university…
If only I’d saved more…
If only I had worked harder…
If only I had more friends…
If only I had a partner…
If only I’d had children…
If only I had said yes that time…
If only I’d been braver…
If only I’d got out sooner…
If only I… (whatever)
 
…THEN I’d be more successful.
 
Do you know, though, that these are just excuses? Deep down, do you know these are just convenient beliefs that you cling to so that you can avoid taking responsibility for what you have (or don’t have) in your life?
 
“If only” keeps you in a place of dissatisfaction.
 
“If only” keeps you seeing yourself as a failure.
 
“If only” stops you from seeing that you are the author of your own story.
 
When you are willing to give up your “If onlys” and swap them for “What’s next?” – then you can start to create your success.
 
Xx love xX